In this post, you’re going to read about the habits of a successful Muslimah. Success can be a very personal thing, what one person finds to be successful is not what another person finds to be successful. However, I think that as Muslim women, there are certain things that we can all agree our definitions of success and I’ve tried to include some of those in this article for you guys today.
So the first and foremost habits of a successful Muslimah, in my opinion, is, a Muslim woman who prays her salat on time, it was the woman who knows what her purposes in this life, who knows that her main goal for being here is to worship Allah SWT and Allah SWT says that, he did not create mankind and jinn kind except to worship Allah. So as Muslim women we must always keep that as our main focus and try to find ways to incorporate that into our lives. So praying Salam on time is crucial to our success and there is the verse in the Quran where Allah says; “that successful indeed are those who pray their salat on time.” we all know the importance of Salah, because it is one of the first things, that we will be asked about on the day of judgment and if that is sound and complete, then all of our other deeds will be sound and complete and if our Salah is not sound and complete then we will basically be in trouble.
The next habit of a successful Muslimah in my perspective is a Muslim woman who is grateful. now I know we fear to hear this hadith that the Prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam saw that, Majority of the people in hellfire are women and one of the reasons that were stated is because they tend to be ungrateful. So we can practice gratitude a lot more in the 21st century, by writing a gratitude journal. I love to my gratitude journals cuz, whenever I do it, it just reminds me that, there is so much that I actually don’t thank Allah for and what I do is, I basically just take my diary out and I sit down and write down five things that I’m grateful for, just for that day and for each day I’ve tried to think of different things and sometimes it can be funny. I’ve written down that I’m grateful for my tongue because I bet my tongue the other day and it hurts so bad. so yes I’m really grateful to Allah to have a tongue that is not hurting right now. so yeah, it could be the greatest of things or the smallest of things, it really doesn’t matter. Allah says that, if you’re grateful to him, he will increase you. Remember that Allah never fails in his promise, so if you want more if you want an increase in your life, then you have to practice gratitude and for me, that is one of the habits of a successful Muslim woman.
The third habit of a successful Muslim woman is that she takes time to care for herself. Self-care is very very important, sometimes it just means taking some time out, just to have a little bit of “me time”, do your beauty regime, that you would normally do taking care of your hair, your nails, your skin, pampering yourself, you know just take a little bit of time to do what makes you happy and that can be making a lovely cup of tea and just sitting down and chilling. Now you cannot be a successful person period let alone a Muslim woman if you yourself are not feeling your best. So in order to give your best you’ve got to be able to be feeling your best and part of having that self-care is taking care of your body, your body has a right over you just as many things have a right over you and that is actually an Islamic saying. So what I like to do is on Sunday mornings, mainly like an hour after Fajr once the Sun has written quite well, I’ll put my own trainers on and I’ll go out of the house, I will start with a quick brisk walk and then I will go running, you can find it your local park you can run around do two laps, whatever you can go to the gym, there are so many options or you can even exercise in your own house or there are sisters only gyms, especially here in London. So make use of the opportunities that you have, to take care of yourself and to look after this body a mind that Allah has blessed us with when we have a healthy body and mind we can give up our best to everyone else around us.
4.Spend Time with your Kids:
Now the next habit of a successful Muslimah in my eyes is, a Muslim woman who takes time out to teach her children. It could be you, sitting down doing homework with your child or you teaching your children morals, you’re teaching them manners and respect. You know the mother is the first teacher in a child’s life, like I teach but people like me who other people bring their children to, I’m like the second grade of teaching, the mother she’s like the first grade of teaching, because everything that she teaches is not just academic, it’s also teaching morals and good manners all those things that I’ve spoken of. So take the time to teach your children, invest in your children because they are the future, there’s no point in us having high expectations of our children when we ourselves are not ready to invest in them, now the men also have a role to play here, yes I do agree, but a majority of the time, it is us the women that spent the most time with the kids and so we carry a lot of this responsibility. So I will say, prioritize your time right and make time for your children, spend quality time with them and teach them and in my eyes, I think that, that is one of the habits of a successful Muslim woman is that she makes time to teach her children.
Another habit is for successful Muslimah, who seeks knowledge. now seeking knowledge is necessary upon the believer, there is no excuse for us not to seek knowledge and seek your knowledge could be secular knowledge as well as Islamic knowledge, what I like to do is make some time, sit down and practice, you know go through my Tajweed and practice some of the things that I’ve learned before in the past to make sure that I’m not forgetting the rules and so I can apply it whenever I’m reading Quran and making sure that reciting the Quran properly. So make your time to seek knowledge to learn, it could be watching something on the internet watching a few lectures or something like that you learn Quran online with tajweed or something you don’t you didn’t know before or even you get reminded of what you know, it could be going to the library and looking through books and expanding your mind and your knowledge. It’s really sad that this day and age a lot of people are still really small minded and they really think that Muslim women are uneducated people, that’s really not the case and Islam encourages education as much as possible and we’ve got to be the representatives of that.
6.Donate to Charity:
the final habit that I would say, that makes a successful Muslimah, is a Muslimah who gives to charity. when I say giving to charity I don’t just mean giving money, it could be giving your time giving your knowledge giving your efforts, supporting a brother or sister and something they are not able to do, but the prophet Muhammad Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said that “it is more beloved to him that he should aid his brother in need than for him to stand in his Masjid.” and he was talking about Masjid An Nabawi in Medina and while standing in his Masjid and performing i’tikaf.
Praying in masjid an Nabawi the rewards are like thousands more than what you would get a regular prayer anywhere else in the world and i’tekaf is literally when you confine yourself to the Masjid and you don’t leave except for your biological needs, let’s say you need to go to the toilet or whatever, then you might be able to leave, but other than that you remain in the Masjid in seclusion and you just worship a lot the whole way through it’s more beloved to the Prophet Mohammed so lovely was tell him to help his brother in need then for him to do that.
when we think about the Deen and worshipping Allah, we only concentrate on Salah. Yes, a lot is at the top of that, but however supporting one another and sharing the good that we have with others is also what makes us such an amazing ummah, so I believe that in order for you to be a successful Muslim you must be able to have that heart to be able to share your good with others and so that Allah SWT will come to your aid and will help you when you are also in need.
So those are there six habits that I believe make a successful Muslim woman, I pray that you guys will be able to implement some of those inshallah.